Cries of the Heart for Acceptance
June 13, 2017
Have you ever had a moment when you feel like you are the only one on earth who is struggling with something? Sometimes, you’ll be sitting in church service and thinking, "Everybody looks like they’re doing so great. But I feel so far away from God..." Well guess what? I have good news for you. Everybody has something that they struggle with! Some people may not be honest about it but nobody on this earth is perfect. We are all in a growing process!
One thing, I think everybody struggles with some degree of needing "Acceptance." You might have heard of someone saying, "I don't care if anyone accepts me or not!" but oh yes, they do! That is a human nature that you can't ignore. We all want to be liked and accepted by other people.
So what does the need for acceptance drive you to do? The need for acceptance and the fear of rejection will usually go hand in hand. It will drive you to do either extremely negative things or positive things. If you will think about a child's bad behavior or teen’s rebellion, they are in needs of their parents' attentions and acceptance. They don't do what they do trying to make themselves unlikable. They are acting out the cries of their hearts for acceptance. How about the positive things that are driven by the need for acceptance? Have you ever tried to hide your need for acceptance by doing the “right thing,” good things or something that would make someone pleased about you? Have you ever over-committed yourself to things and been overwhelmed? Or you said "yes" to the things that you don't really want to do because you were afraid to say "no" and risk being rejected by your friends? You probably hadn't noticed your motive before, but can you see what the deep cries of your heart for acceptance have driven you to do?
Let's face it. Although we want to be accepted by others and try to make it happen, sometimes we end up in such disappointment. Repeating that disappointment in our lives, we learn to form our own identities, even though they may not be true. I'm not smart enough. I'm not strong enough. I'm not good enough. I'm not lovable. I'm not this and that... Have you ever heard those lies in your spirit? How can we overcome those lies that created by the need for acceptance?
1. Knowing God has accepted you just as who you are! --- God created you exactly as He designed you to be. There's no need to seek acceptance from Him. He'll be pleased with you when you live the life and calling that He has placed in your life. There's no other person who loves you and accept all of you more than He does!
2. Learning to accept "you." --- It's easier to accept other people than yourself. Do you agree? Many of us are so hard on ourselves, especially when the need for acceptance has created false identities in us. Psalm 139:14 says, "I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well." Learn to accept how God sees you. You are His wonderful creation!
3. Accept the fact that not everyone will be pleased with you. --- It's hard to accept that fact because we all want to be liked. But it's true. And we need to be okay with that. God created each of us so unique in many different ways. Some people might not like how you are for some reason, but not "everybody," although it feels that way sometimes. But that's not true. Learn to accept that fact and give your energy to loving people who appreciate who you are instead of worrying about people who don't care to know you as a person. Pray for them and let God deal with it.
Remember that you are only one like you on earth and are very special. You are custom ordered by Almighty God. Be special! Be fabulous in your own skin! Now, can you accept that?
Shine Morrison is a singer/songwriter, a performing artist, a speaker, a worship leader, a deaconess of a church, a small group leader, a Christian life coach, someone who always looking for opportunities to serve God and His people. She is married to her husband since 1986, has 3 children together and currently has 4 grandchildren. She thinks that being a Grammy is the most blessed thing ever!
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